Yesterday was the one-year anniversary of my grandfather's death. As has been the case with various anniversaries surrounding my brother's illness and death, it came with some pleasant surprises. Some might dismiss them as "coincidence". I do not. I hope you'll see why.
Three years ago this month, my grandfather (call him 'B') sent me a hand-written letter. Its main purpose was encouraging me in my attempt (ultimately if improbably successful) to complete a 100-mile wilderness running race. 'B' had taken the time to search out a Bible passage that might be appropriate, finally settling on Isaiah 40:28-31:
28 Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The LORD is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom.
29 He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
30 Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
31 but those who hope in the LORD
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
Inspired by that gesture, particularly from a man who had pushed through nearly 100 years himself - as I was about to push through as many miles - I hand lettered verse 31 onto my race jersey (see
my blogger profile picture taken thirty miles into the event).
I thought of B's letter and that passage often during the event. I improbably 'soared', completing the race just after dawn, a little more than 24 hours after I'd started. I'd immediately called my grandfather in Georgia to share what I'd accomplished. He'd been gleeful along with me, admitting he'd thought I might not make it - joyful that I had. An athlete himself in his youth, I could sense the man he once was in his 95 year-old voice that day. We both knew where my strength had come from.
Without any coordination or communication by any of the family (including 'B' before he'd died, we later confirmed) the pastor of B's church had selected the same Isaiah passage to read at his funeral. Go figure. He had no idea that it was B's favorite.
Flash ahead to this April...
I'm at the start of the Boston Marathon, holed up in a nearby church recreation hall, sitting on a rare piece of empty floor space not far from a life-sized crucifix hanging on the wall, along with 500 others running in support of the Dana Farber Cancer Institute where my brother was treated last year. Due to the generosity of friends, family and even a few readers of this blog, I managed to raise over $40,000 for the cause.
I had thought about waiting outside in the unusually fine April weather, but a chance encounter with another runner of the same 100-miler I'd done led me inside to chat. That turned out to be crucially important to the rest of what transpired.
Just before we were to leave to walk to the starting line, the organizers turned the microphone over to one of our fellow runners for a pre-race meditation. 'N' is the wife of a well-known professional baseball player. Her honey-sweet southern accent immediately captured my attention. What came next did far more than that.
With very little fanfare (
"I know y'all may come from a variety of faith traditions, but I'd like to share something that's given me strength in hard times"), she recited... Isaiah 40:28-31[!!], followed by this:
"May God Bless each of you today with good health,
good strong legs, feet and heart as you run.
Lord, please give us the fortitude to bear the pain
and continue running. Give us the courage to stop
running if we are injured and the wisdom to distinguish
between the two.
"Lord, this is not about us; it is about YOU doing good
work through us. Use us as your instrument of good
will and healing for those we love and care about.
"May your thoughts be of those we are running for,
those who have suffered and are suffering.
We are willing to suffer for them. Amen
"All it takes is faith like a mustard seed!
God Speed to you all!
Shaking at the powerful 'coincidence' of hearing B's favorite Bible passage read in his same Southern accent at just the moment I most needed it, I scurried to the front of the room to find 'N', thank her, and inform her of its meaning for me. Alas, she was lost in the crowd and her own race preparations. You may be wondering how I knew exactly what she'd said. Hold on. We're getting to that... :)
A week or so after the marathon, I was still uninspired to write one of the introspective monologue race reports for which I've become semi-notorious among family and friends. I had bits and pieces of insight into "what it meant", but nothing was really coming together. The most significant thing I could recall was hardly enough for a full report:
Well into the race - a few miles before getting to the point where my family would be waiting for me but still several miles from the finish, I'd hit a low spot, recognizing I couldn't do this alone. After running 100 miles, some think that a marathon ought to be 'easy'. It is not. I'd prayed a quick little running prayer to the effect of "Lord, you took me this far..." [landing a much sought-after Boston Marathon entry in my e-mail box just two days before my brother died last fall] "...now please help me see this through!"
Less than a minute after saying that little mid-race prayer for strength and faith and patience, I'd come up on two runners wearing jerseys I hadn't seen all day and would not see again.
Ahead and to my right was a man with "ISAIAH 40:31" hand-printed in big, block letters on the back of his shirt. I'd been looking hard for someone with that jersey since it's effectively mine as well. At virtually the same moment ahead and to my left, I spotted a woman wearing a jersey with a giant colorful butterfly on the back.
A butterfly. I'd never seen one like it. It was not a little decoration but the main feature of the shirt - stretching from shoulder blade to shoulder blade. Longtime readers will recognize the deep significance of that symbol - a story I related last August and again in my brother's eulogy.
My brother asked the priest an age-old question: what is this prayer thing? what am I supposed to do? how do I pray? The priest replied: prayer is like catching a butterfly; do not struggle and run after it; be still and it will land on you.
Priest leaves. Ten minutes pass. My brother sits quietly. My sister-in-law comes home with my niece who runs in the door ahead of her. Without saying a word, my niece runs to her toy chest, opens it and pulls out... a stuffed butterfly... and sets it gently in my brother's lap. "Daddy", she says, "I want you to have this because I love you very much."
Hmm... My impromptu prayer is immediately followed by a clear "brother 'E' symbol" and an equally clear "grandfather 'B' symbol" running almost side by side directly ahead of me, pulling me forward, just at the moment I most needed a major boost. Are we paying attention yet?
Other than that anecdote (as significant as it was!), the only over-arching thought I'd had consistently was that this time, perhaps for the first time in nearly three decades of long-distance running, the race had most definitely NOT been about the running itself - or me. I had felt myself a vehicle; the race a ritual that would enable other parts of God's plan to transpire.
My little niece falling gently asleep on my lap for the first time ever that night - just as she used to do with my brother, her father when he (also a big baseball fan) would sit down to watch the Red Sox - was certainly way up there on the list, though it was hardly the only thing. Raising four times more money for cancer research than I'd ever hoped or dreamed of doing is also something I'll put in the 'miracle' department for reasons that would require another long blog post to explain. (Short story: a VERY BIG donor came completely out of the woodwork - from 20 years in my past - on the anniversary of my brother's diagnosis -
a date he did not know.)
Though I had not remembered them precisely, N's words (I'd largely forgotten them except for the Isaiah part), almost perfectly described my experience: a tribute to my brother (and grandfather 'B') and a way to be God's instrument, if only for a few hours.
Still wanting to make the connection with N, I asked the organizers a few days after the race if they'd share her e-mail address with me, half expecting that they wouldn't. As the wife of a major league sports figure, N doesn't need more random yahoos filling her mailbox with e-mail. To my surprise and pleasure however, they were happy to pass it on. I dashed off a short note expressing how grateful I was for her serendipitous role in encouraging me so specifically at the start of an especially emotional race. I did not share any particulars about 'B' or 'E', their dates of death or anything else.
Weeks went by and I didn't hear anything. No biggie. E-mails often get lost in the ether; she's busy; and in any case I hadn't asked for a reply. Case closed. Maybe I'd run into her next year. Or not. I was glad I'd sent it anyway.
Flash ahead to yesterday -
the eve of the anniversary of B's death. A large Fedex envelope arrives. Return address: 'N'... in my home town. Interesting. I opened it.
Inside it was:
- A copy of her pre-race prayer (above)
- A hand-written note on her personal stationery with Hebrews 12:1 engraved at the bottom ("Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.").
- A bronze Isaiah 40:31 eagle keychain
- An Isaiah 40:31 eagle cutout penny medallion
- A 24kt gold plated Isaiah 40:31 bookmark...
...and two more items, one of which was:
- a signed baseball card (N's husband).
I'm not well versed in such things but even to the untrained eye, it's a rather unusual card. The typical stuff is printed at the top: height, weight, birth date, draft date, major league debut date, etc. The rest of the card reads as follows:
"Life sure is challenging at times. We often think we have all the answers but many times we are only fooling ourselves. I grew up going to Church and had a great Christian influence in my home. It wasn't until... just prior to starting my professional baseball career that I understood being a Christian was more than going to church and coming from a Christian family. Being a Christian meant that I understood there was nothing I could do to earn God's favor and a place in heaven; it means I need to trust in what Jesus Christ did for me on the cross. Jesus died for my sins and rose again so that I could have eternal life. That decision of putting my faith in Christ has given me the assurance of spending eternity in heaven with Jesus. It has also given me confidence in knowing that God provides me with guidance in every circumstance if I will call on Him in prayer, just talking with him like you talk with a friend. Over the past few years, I've also been able to grow by reading God's Word - the Bible. Life isn't perfect. I don't always drive in the winning run, but I have a greater purpose in life - to bring Glory to God, and live with the assurance that I will spend eternity with Jesus in Heaven. My favorite Bible verse is Isaiah 40:31[!!]: "those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint."
Whoa... Not your typical American sports hero. Not your typical womanizing, money-hungry, drug-taking prima donna lusting after his third Ferrari.
Because the Isaiah passage is one of only a handful that specifically mention running, it's not all
that uncommon among believer/runners I know, though I will often go several races without seeing it. Among baseball players it is virtually unheard of. Which brings us to the last item:
- a pair of leather batting gloves in the colors of N's husband's team
The gloves are custom-embroidered with "Isaiah 40:28-31" in large letters on each wrist, each one signed by N's husband. Not that I do much power hitting these days, but in case I change my mind, they fit perfectly. (OK, so I've
never done any power hitting and don't plan to.)
There's a final even more important synchronicity in all this that completely escaped me until I ran it by my aunt (B's daughter): baseball. My grandfather 'B' was an absolute baseball fanatic, having played as a youth and coached high school teams as an adult.
Having grown up in a pre-television era, he had an amazing ability to listen to a game on the radio (almost always tuned in from April to October) and have it all in his head in real time.
"Who's on first?" He would know.
"What's the count?",
"What's the pitcher's ERA?",
"Is the batter a leftie?" He would know.
"How many fast balls this inning?" Total recall. Totally tuned in. Total baseball fanatic.
So on the anniversary of the eve of my baseball-fanatic-grandfather's death, closely tied in to a run full of prayer-specific symbolism for both him and my brother, specifically referencing his encouragement of my running in the past, I receive an unexpected spiritual care package stuffed with memorabilia stamped with his favorite Bible passage... which just so happens to also be the favorite passage of the first professional baseball player to whom I've ever had even the remotest personal connection.
Hello! Are we awake yet?
Short of my grandfather walking into my office in a new 25-year-old body and giving me a hug, I can't think of a more direct and obvious way of saying:
"I'm still here; so is Christ; so is your brother. We're waiting. We love you. Go on. You still have work to do."And as if that weren't enough, in just a few weeks, the choir from B's church in Georgia is ("coincidentally" for the first time ever) coming to Boston and attending a game in which N's husband will be playing. They've given me free tickets to come with them.
Ever since their World Series win, tickets to Red Sox home games have been like 100-dollar bills on the sidewalk. They're hard to find if not unheard of. They
never just fall into your lap for free. OK, that's not quite true. The last time (in 20 years) that I managed to score tickets to a Red Sox game was... last June; same week... when my brother had a pair he couldn't use because he was sick. Right along the first base line; lower section; perfect weather. He gave them to me. I called him from the game. The Red Sox won.
I thought I was convinced, yet I realize that if such a blatant 'intervention' was necessary to bolster my faith and get me to blog about it, I was probably a lot weaker (in faith) than I ever suspected or knew. Today I can say with greater conviction than ever - though not as much as I hope to have next week, next month or next year: There is purpose. There is order. There is love. We are being watched over. We are incredibly blessed...
Do you not know? Have you not heard?...