I'll dispense (for now) with a long explanation for a long time away except to say that life in 'meatspace' has taken precedence in the best possible ways: summer activities, family, visitors, house projects, work, the honest-to-goodness start of a novel, and an inner peace that's curiously at odds with yet also inspired by the increasingly apocalyptic news out of the Middle East. More on all that later if anybody cares. Thanks, btw, to those of you who took the time to write and say you did. The thought that this blog has regular readers who miss their daily dose is oddly touching.
A startling anecdote from the weekend:
In 2004, my brother, two friends and I took a trip to Wyoming where one of those friends ('B') and I were to run a 100-mile race (the Bighorn Trail Run) through the mountain wilderness. 'B' finished that race; I did not. 'B' ended up running in the last mile to a dramatic high-place finish alongside my brother Ed, who cherished the moment and spoke about it often in the 16 months before he died. It was a remarkable and transformative experience for him in part because he couldn't really run after a severe ankle injury ten years ago. On that day, for some reason, he did - and virtually without pain.
On the drive back from that race (north to Montana), the four of us stopped in at the Little Bighorn National Monument (aka, Custer's Last Stand). It was a pleasant interlude in an otherwise frenetic and exhausting long weekend. Some pleasantly serendipitous if relatively ordinary happenings at that rest stop made it especially memorable for all of us.
Then, last summer (2005), in the middle of my brother's fight with leukemia - before it was clear he would lose it - the other good friend on that trip ('L') reported to me (almost sheepishly) a vivid dream he had had. 'L' is pretty much a "here and now" kinda guy. This was the first and only dream I can ever remember him discussing with me or anyone else. I know that 'L' was sincere in recounting the dream. He was not just trying to make something up to encourage me.
It boiled down to a strong sense that "the four of us will be together again at a big race".
Since 'B' lives in another country, thousands of miles away, that was a more remarkable thought than it might seem. We only see 'B' every few years, if that. Furthermore, by "big race", it was clear that 'L' meant another 100-miler. Those too are rare. 'B' may run as many as two a year. I've completed just one in my life, as has 'L'. In other words, the dream was several orders of magnitude more improbable (even assuming that my brother would beat leukemia) than saying, for example, that the local boys would all get together for a beer at the next 5K fun run down the street at the YMCA.
This past weekend was the first time that the remaining three of us had been together since that trip to Wyoming and visit to the Little Bighorn National Monument, aka Custer's Last Stand.
'B' had flown in to compete in the Vermont 100-Mile Endurance Run with 'L' and myself serving as 'crew' and 'pacer' (i.e., staying up all night to keep him going). On Friday night, with less than twelve hours to go before the start of the race the three of us, plus 'B's wife, had finally gathered at the house we would share for the weekend. As we stood in the kitchen trying to decide what to do for dinner, it was finally suggested that we wander up the street where - we'd heard - there was a good brew pub. None of us had been to it before.
Upon arrival, we discovered several tables outside in a pleasant little garden. Because of the heat and humidity, 'B' insisted we go inside where it was air conditioned. We walked in to find just one table available... for four... in the corner... right next to a HUGE picture of... Custer's Last Stand. (Like my brother, he didn't quite make it to 40 either, dying at age 37.)
Go figure. This is Vermont: not exactly the first place you think of for featuring paintings of politically incorrect military debacles in every two-bit watering hole.
We raised a toast, of course. 'B's wife made five...
What are the chances?
One could go through the exercise of surveying restaurants in the handful of towns that host 100-mile adventure runs to see which ones featured paintings of icons meaningful to the four of us and relevant to the only previous trip we'd been on together. Yet the exercise would be without point. The answer might be that there were none. Or several. It really doesn't matter. Similarly, one could put my friend 'L' under the bright lights and hook him up to a lie-detector and threaten his family if he didn't fess up to a big, cruel practical joke. That too would be pointless. I know he is honest. The set-up was too perfect for any human actor.
And as if to drive home the point that the dream really had been fulfilled and that my brother really was with us - in whatever manner one may choose to conceive of it - the great big in-your-face sign of fulfillment and reassurance (the Custer/Bighorn painting) was reinforced by two other, more subtle ones in the following 24 hours.
Just after we returned to the house from eating, 'L' (a semi-agnostic skeptic raised by a Catholic mom and a Jewish dad) went to set the clock radio in his room. You know the drill: set the time and then turn on the radio to test the volume and the station tuning. 'L' and I regularly engage in spiritual banter. My belief in a thoroughly divine and active, living Jesus Christ is always lingering at the periphery of those discussions, from time to time coming to center stage.
Down the hall, 'L' adjusts the radio: Click. Full volume: "God is good. Yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah-yeah. What if God was one of us? Just a slob like one of us. Just a stranger on the bus. Trying to make his way home..."
I haven't heard that song on the radio in two years. We had a good laugh. 'L' gave me one of those looks.
Then, in the wee hours of Sunday morning, as 'B' and I jogged and walked - often alone - down the remote dirt roads of central Vermont through the final twenty miles of his arduous run, we got to talking about Ed, as I knew we eventually would.
'B' looked up. "Did you see that?", he asked.
"What?" I replied.
"There: a shooting star - just ahead. Up there."
A shooting star... a brother, husband, father and friend that one former colleague described as "a prince of a man"... cut off at age 39... a star pulling 'B' on... once again showing him the way... through the final miles... as he had done in Wyoming two years ago. No busted ankle this time.
I looked up, searching for more. There were none. It was the only shooting star we saw all night. Just one... more than enough to know.
UPDATE: Sounds like I'm not the only one to reunite with deceased loved ones at big races.